Codependency is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity.
From a scientific point of view, we can find various types of relationships which organisms have with each other. A parasitic relationship is where one organism is feeding off another in a way that destroys the other. Co-dependency is a sort of mutual parasitism. In co-dependent relationship both parties are emotionally feeding off each other in a way that is destructive to both of them. This kind of mutual emotional parasitism is naturally fed by the flames of shame and judgment. Another type of relationship in nature is mutual symbiosis, where both organisms benefit from the relationship. A good example of mutual symbiosis is the relationship between shrimp and goby fish. The shrimp digs a burrow in the sand which is used by both organisms as a shelter. Because the shrimp is nearly blind, whenever a predator is nearby, the goby fish helpfully touches the shrimp to warn it about the danger.. In thriving, loving and successful relationships both partners are stronger together rather than when they are apart. They are there for each other during difficult times, and they increase each others’ joy in happy times. So, one might want to ask: ‘What is the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationship?’ The only sustainable way to grow and evolve is on a foundation of respect: First and foremost, respect for self and then for others.
The truth is that we are all growing and evolving in our own ways and at our own pace. And that is quite alright. What is not alright, however, is when we disrespect ourselves or others, either by using 'blame game' or control.